Starting to date again, after a major breakup, is a major frontier. You’ve already got your own feelings and desires to take into account; and then have to contend with your friends and family’s opinions about your personal life and your state of “readiness”.

Either way you have a lot to wrestle with, which makes dating seem even more daunting, because you’re getting pressures or advices that send you in completely different directions!

All those rules of thumb and old wives’ tales and newspaper advice columns tell you that you should wait at least one year after a major breakup before you start dating again.

While that may have been true, in the last century, that sage advice really doesn’t fit in with today’s high-paced lifestyles. On one had, you could simply qualify that old adage to read as: wait one year before getting into another major relationship.

On the other hand, you could simply dismiss this idea as being an antiquated relic of the past, and forge ahead making your own rules.

Either of these interpretations can fit into what suits you best. Both of them would allow you to start dating whenever you felt ready, without feeling like you’re in any rush to get into another relationship.

To enjoy the process of getting to know someone new, and afford you the time to get to know the new you- who you are outside of the old relationship and its bounds.

One of the best ways to get to know someone new, without the awkward pressures of the “first date”, is to use your smartphone to connect you with an entire community of locals! Phone dating is great because you can meet as many or as few people as you wish.

You get to narrow down a whole population into an eligibility that’s suited just for you! Then, you get to have actual conversations with real people. It’s like a “try it before you buy it” approach to relationships, which guarantees you more happiness and success in your personal life!